Forgiveness vs. Forgetting

Forgiveness can be the easiest thing in the world if you love someone. But how can you forget? How do you forget about the pain? Does it take time? Work? Money? Or is it just something different for everyone?

Forgetting can be almost impossible in a long distance relationship more than any other relationship because the trust between two people in a ldr are stronger than most other relationships. This is because it is what that relationship is based upon. Most couples who are physically together don't have trust the person as much, they also don't need to communicate as much because the show it physically.

So how do you get over something like lies, cheating or any thing of that sort in a a long distance relationship? It isn't easy at all, harder then most "regular" relationships but it is possible! You really just have to not worry only about your self but you have to make a serious effort to listen to what the other person is saying. Whether they did wrong or if you did the wrong, you still need to be equally important to each other.

For me this was an issue and still is. I always thought that I was being an understanding person but I wasn't. I realized that I have a problem translating what my boyfriend was saying into something that would hurt me more. I am slowly findng that if we talk over a video chat and are able to see each other we calm down and actually listen to each other.

Now this might not work for you but just find a way to calm yourself down so you can actually listen. This might be ten or fifteen minutes of alone time, a comfort food or just being on the phone together without saying any words to one another. But there always is a way to do it!

So just calm down listen and eventually you will he able to move past it and forget!